Him: Blast From the Past

Recently an old fling that I dealt with about two years ago reached out to me, last I heard he was in a relationship so when I got a text message from him saying “Hey beautiful, I’ve been looking for you and I’m now a single man” I gave the side eye to that text but proceeded with caution before responding.

At this point we’ve been communicating for about a month or so and I already see why I stopped talking to him so many years ago, inconsistency. You would think any man that is trying to pursue you and “not lose you again” would be open to communication, trying to make an effort to go out on dates or even show you that he is interested beyond what he’s typing or saying but actions. But like any parent tells you when growing up “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me”.

This morning while checking on recent blog updates Men Can’t Let Go by G L Lambert [amazing blog and books, check it out] came up and it was like an answer to everything I have been thinking, I know my worth but I had almost fell in to that cycle that I fought so hard to get out of and that was settling. We as women sometimes find comfort in getting back in to an old flame or situation because it’s familiar and we don’t like the unknown. But I rather deal with the unknown than deal with a situation that I was in before.... there’s a reason for why you stopped talking to someone or dealing with their antics and even though I second-guessed myself and had a moment of weakness I am focused and determined to continue on the path I’ve been on. 

Sauniya said...

I love this post!! I was in a similar situation.. an old flame that reappeared after it didn't work out with the girl he got with while he was with me. That should have been a good enough red flag fr me to sty away but I started talking to him and zero consistency.. i realised he only contacted me because there was no-one else available and I was a good distraction.. I cut it all off. This post just helps me reaffirm that I have indeed made the right decision.

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